I want a casual hookup, not a relationship – how do I say that on Tinder?

I want a casual hookup, not a relationship – how do I say that on Tinder?

I am https://datingranking.net/cuckold-chat-room/ 37, a single mom and am looking to find someone, but not a boyfriend. After years of slowly losing my mojo and sexual confidence, I am slowly rediscovering my drives and desires and now want to find someone to explore that with.

I don’t need or want a father figure for my child, and as nice as it would be to have dinner and a drink, that is really as far as I want things to go.

You’re already ahead of the game because you are able to articulate what you are looking for. Good for you.

And you do want someone who is very sex-positive

If you have been reading my column for a while, you may have noticed that a common thread is people not knowing what they want, or coming across other people who can’t articulate or communicate their desires, and the awkwardness that ensues. So. This is a great start!

Now, it’s fairly likely that you won’t have trouble finding people who would like to have sex with you if you start meeting some people online. Some you’ll find repulsive, some you’ll find boring, but if you meet enough new folks it’s bound to happen that you’ll have enough chemistry with someone to want go to bed with them, and vice versa.

But establishing the kind of relationship you’re looking for – consistent sex with one person who you get to know over time, but without the other common components of a committed relationship – may be challenging. I have long believed that the secret to finding a lasting partnership is less about meeting the one but rather about meeting someone who you find attractive and interesting but who also – and this is crucial – wants the same kind of relationship that you do at the same time that you want it.

This can apply to casual relationships as much as serious ones: if you want to explore sex in a mutually respectful but not-very-emotional way, you’ll need to find someone who also wants to do that, too. (more…)